I was thinking I’d want my daughters to know how much I love them, but I’d also want them to know that being a strong man includes being kind. That there’s nothing weak about kindness and compassion. There’s nothing weak about looking out for others. There’s nothing weak about being honorable. You’re not a sucker to have integrity, and to treat others with respect.Barack Obama (b. 1961) American politician, US President (2009-2017)
[...] What’s wrong with judgment? Don’t we need judgment to figure out right from wrong? To take personal responsibility for our mistakes?-- Kristin Neff in the book Self-Compassion
It’s useful here to draw a distinction between judgment and discriminating wisdom. Discriminating wisdom recognizes when things are harmful or unjust, but also recognizes the causes and conditions that lead to situations of harm or injustice in the first place. When wrongdoers are treated with compassion rather than harsh condemnation, cycles of conflict and suffering can be broken.
Imagine hearing a story about a young man who robs a bank and shoots a teller in the arm as she tries to call for help. At first you might make a ruthless judgment of the man—he’s a monster and should be locked in jail for eternity. End of story. But then, you learn more about the criminal’s background and history. His parents were drug addicts. By eleven he was out on the streets in a neighborhood where he had to fight and steal to survive. He tried to get a job and go straight but kept getting fired because he didn’t know how to read or write properly, and eventually he turned to crime again. Your hard-line attitude toward the offender might begin to soften. You might even come to have compassion for him. This compassion wouldn’t mean that you absolve the man of responsibility for his crimes, or think that what he did was okay. You might still decide that he needs to be put away in prison to ensure the safety of society. But you would have a deeper understanding of the conditions that led him to act as he did, and you would retain respect for his humanity in the process. And who knows, it’s even possible that with the right help and encouragement—in other words, a new set of conditions—he could change.
This is discriminating wisdom rather than judgment. Judgment defines people as bad versus good and tries to capture their essential nature with simplistic labels. Discriminating wisdom recognizes complexity and ambiguity. It acknowledges that life has unfolded in such a way as to cause something to happen, but also allows for the possibility that with a new set of circumstances things might well go differently.
Jesus famously said, “Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.” And later, as he hung dying on the cross, he said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” The message was clear: we need to have understanding and compassion for even the worst wrongdoers, ourselves included.
We have all heard enough to fill a book about Dr. Johnson’s incivilities. I wish they would compile another book consisting of Dr. Johnson’s apologies. There is no better test of a man’s ultimate chivalry and integrity than how he behaves when he is wrong; and Johnson behaved very well. He understood (what so many faultlessly polite people do not understand) that a stiff apology is a second insult. He understood that the injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.Gilbert Keith Chesterton (1874-1936) English journalist and writer
#Women, source of existence,
You are the basis for the home, so keep the house tidy.
You are the origin of life, so let your offspring embrace the #Dharma.
You are the support for the body, so appreciate your husbands.
A good husband is like one's heart, so respect what he says.
A bad husband is your karmic residual, so give him what he wishes and do not be contemptuous.
In-laws are like your parents, so offer them respect.
Your husband's male relatives are like your father and brothers, so rear them with food and modesty.
Sisters-in-law are only with you briefly, so serve them well.
The scorn of others will be upon yourself, so face everyone with a smile.
If you are short-tempered or arrogant, servants will always be few.
#Appearances may arise as enemies, so always remain cheerful.
A talkative woman is a nuisance, so do not be too fond of #gossip.
Praise and respect your father and brothers and be modest and noble-minded.
You provide the provisions for sons and husbands, so be generous to travelers.
Sustain servants and family with meals and be affectionate.
Do not be too miserly with your wealth; instead share the food #generously.
Show a clear and smiling face and keep strict cleanliness.
Go to sleep late at night and rise early in the morning.
Be diligent at the seasonal farm work and do not procrastinate.
Foster cattle, watchdogs, and servants with #compassion.
Spend as much as you can on #virtue.
Thus you will be blessed in this life and have happiness in the following.
I, #Padmakara, am now taking leave, Whether you live in the #present or will appear in the #future,
#Tibetan women of future generations, keep this in your hearts.
Thus he gave instructions. ( #padmasambhava )
#Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year we come together and celebrate #love. But there’s a lot more to love than what’s typically associated with the #holiday – bouquets of red roses, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate, cards from secret admirers and so on.
Love is about #understanding, #compassion and #joy. It’s about #kindness and #generosity. And about giving in to something greater than yourself. In many ways, #volunteers embody all of these qualities. That’s why we’re highlighting 7 ways to #volunteer and put that love into action.
This #ValentinesDay, celebrate love in its truest form by giving your time to support and care for others in your #community. You might just find nothing gives you the warm fuzzies quite like #volunteering.
"Il y a des enseignements pour devenir éveillé, mais j'ai un enseignement (le Phowa) qui offre l'illumination sans méditation",a déclaré Marpa,
Pendant ce temps, Padmasambhava demeurait à la grotte de Ch'imphu à proximité de Samye quand un ministre important du roi, Nyima, connu une tragédie. Nyima, qui avait deux palais et était en train de passer de l'un à l'autre, était en train d'emballer des biens à la lumière d'une lanterne quand une petite étincelle provoqua un incendie qui instantanément brûla tout le palais tuant tragiquement treize personnes, dont ses parents.Le roi désireux de mettre fin aux souffrances de son ministre alla à la grotte de Ch'im-phu pour demander l'aide de Padmasambhava.
Tous ses chevaux, mulets, bovins et autres animaux avaient également péri dans l'incendie.
Le ministre Nyima, pensant à l'amour et au respect que d'autres montrent envers leurs parents estima qu'il avait commis
le plus lourd des péchés en provoquant la mort de ses parents et d'autres êtres.
It is probably the second most chanted mantra, after Om Mani Padme Hum — which is a short mantra of #Avalokiteshvara.A Dharani is generally held to contain the essence of the entire Sutra in which it is cited, in this case the sutra of the Maha Karuna Dharani Sutra, but is not meant to be literally translated (even though we do so below.) It is meant to transform us at a more profound level than can be conveyed with simple words.
It is also among the most beautiful to listen to both in tonality and expression.
Despite its intimidating length of 84 lines (there’s also a short version), which is long in terms of a Dharani or mantra,
it is sung daily by many devoted followers of the Compassionate #Buddha.
“Bhagavan, I have a mantra of Great –compassionate Heart Dharani and now wish to proclaim it, for comforting and pleasing all living beings; for healing all illness; for living beings to attain additional lifespan; for living beings to gain wealth; for extinguishing all evil karma and weighty sins; for keeping away from hindrance and disasters; for producing merits of all pure Dharmas; for maturing all virtuous roots; for overcoming all fears; for fulfilling all good wished. Bhagavan, please be merciful and allow me to speak ”Mantra:
I met Atalya Ben-Abba when she was in high school, trying to come to terms with her eventual conscription as a soldier. She was a strong-willed young woman who was considering becoming a combat soldier. When her brother – my partner – told me that she had decided to refuse military service and would be sent to prison, I was in awe of her courage. After hearing her articulate her objection to the occupation of the Palestinian territories and seeing her charisma through the camera, I knew it was a story that should be amplified. I seek to elevate the actions of Atalya and the growing movement of youth objectors as a stimulus for all of us – regardless of nationality – to act boldly on our visions of justice.— Molly Stuart │ We Are Moving Stories Interview
Everything begins only to end. The moment you were born you began to die. That's how it is with everything.This quote has always helped me to keep things in perspective. Everywhere I look, people are hating each other, people are hurting each other, people are ignoring each other, and people are killing each other. As a culture, we like to say we stand up for ideals like liberty, love, and freedom, but in the end, for too many of us it is really just pretend. Perhaps these ideals once had weighty substance and meaning, but they now seem reduced to empty shells: Words that are tossed around with little thought because they sound good, like trite political slogans on the eve of an election. But stopping to consider mortality, the suffering that each of us feels at some level on a daily basis, and the shortness of it all, one may pause for a moment to wonder why there is not more compassion in this world.
— Janne Teller, Nothing