A systemic societal mistake prevalent in America
I'm not sure this is true throughout the world or just in pockets of society, but I know it's widespread. Here's the gist; #Girl
does something nice to #Boy
, boy falls madly in love with girl, girl finds it objectively #Creepy
, girl treats boy badly, boy is very confused.
I assume that the source of the problem is the affectionless treatment of boys by relatives and guardians. It doesn't have to be abuse, but the #Spartan
attitude of #Toughness
in much of our society causes one important part of the child's life to be so empty that when a drop hits the bottom of that empty vessel it electrifies a need to get more that is overwhelming to people unprepared to fill that need.It doesn't have to be mutually exclusive
that a child learns toughness or receives ample #Affection
in their life. They can easily get both. Children raised with the old, "don't coddle your child it will weaken them," delusion are raising children who won't fit into social settings well.
I wonder if the average #Utah
is immune to this problem because they are notoriously nice to each other within their familial group and #Religion